Well, that which I feared has happened. Lorne has lost one of his parents while he was incarcerated. There are many things that would make people go "well, it was bound to happen..." Yes, it was. Death is a natural part of the life cycle; as a Witch, I know this. The part that saddens me is that it was Lorne's father, a man with whom Lorne has an extremely long and contentious relationship with. So much of the man that Lorne, is today, good and bad, are as a direct result of the influence that his father had on him. And trust me, it was no small influence. His father brought out the worst and the best in him. The last few months of his life, Lorne's father, I believe was trying to reach out to Lorne and apologize to him for all the pain he had caused him. I truly believe that Lorne's father did love Lorne, deeply, but was one of those very flawed human beings who were unable to show true love, tolerance and acceptance of their child but did so in a very controlling and demeaning way.
It's sad really, that Lorne's father did not know how to show such emotional kindness to Lorne. The funny thing is that Lorne has adopted many of the same traits as his father, but Lorne doesn't seem to see that. Lorne had told me stories of how strained his relationship with his father was and how it developed over the many years. For Lorne, I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a parent and not be able to attend to their funeral or take over those duties that a child should when a parent passes.
As for Lorne, I am deeply saddened that he will no longer be able to heal the relationship with his father. The only option left open to Lorne is to forgive him and I don't think that is in the cards.
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